#Romantic Relationships

‘Episode 1’ Love is wicked

Welcome to the first episode of ‘My Self- Hate Actions’. I started this series for any vulnerable person going through phases of self-hate and for anyone who is feeling inadequate while using my own life experiences. Today I’ll be talking about Romantic Relationships.

Omo, I was a hopeless romantic a.k.a lover girl and that’s what I looked like on the surface. But in my heart of heart (within myself) I needed love and validation from the opposite sex, I felt beautiful when boyfriend ‘Amazing’ said I looked beautiful, I felt special whenever boyfriend ‘Darling’ called me special and I felt valued once boyfriend ‘Obnoxious’ told me I was one of the best things that ever happened to him, let’s just say all of these relationships ended in premium tears not because they broke my heart in any way, but because the expectations I had of all my relationships were way too high and of course these relationships not meeting my expectations led to tears, but lets just leave it oh.

One day monkey go enter market and he no go come back, of course that was my situation, ekun toh premium oporr (premium tears). Dear Darling reader if you are in a relationship because you want to be loved or because you are insecure then this relationship would drain you out and make you feel the most miserable ever because Nemo dat quod non-habet (google it dear).

I’m just kidding, it simply means you cannot give what you don’t have.

No one would ever complete you and I repeat no one can ever complete you asides God and just maybe your immediate family can love you more than yourself, this is the reason why no relationship would make you happy. The journey to self-love is not an easy one but it is achievable because slow and steady wins the race.

How to practice self-love

1. Finding your identity in Christ and seeing yourself how God sees you is the best kind of self-love you would ever experience. The scripture calls you a royal priesthood, a holy nation and the scripture goes as far as saying you are worth far above rubies (you are worth above precious stones).
2. Daily affirmations works like magic. You become what you say, which is why the sweet scriptures say there is power in the tongue and the power of life and death lies in the tongue.
3. Whatever the balm of money can solve for you grab it. If you are insecure about your body and you can afford a fitness coach, by all means, should you grab that opportunity. I want you to remember you were wonderfully created by God and God makes no mistakes if you feel ugly in any way.
4. Practice makes perfect. This means if you feel inadequate at anything, keep practising till you become perfect at it. Failing at something is not an offence and never would it be.
5. Through prayers and thanksgiving make your request known to God. Bring God on your self-love journey through your daily prayers and you would never regret it.
6. Do not be took hard of yourself, I want you to take each day at a time and remember you are unique in your own way. David’s life in the Bible was unique because he was a shepherd boy for the longest, obviously all of that was to prepare him for the future.
7. Bye-Bye to yeye boyfriend (or girlfriend), call it quits to any bad relationship for your healing process to be progressive and if you need someone to talk to kindly contact me on my Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/p/CHnvqo4FVhS/?igshid=ime31pvg5506My Instagram page, we would go through this together.

As a result of finding love in the wrong places, I ended being in relationship with people I didn’t have to be friends with on the long run and some of these relationships never valued me. This was simply a case of from frying pan to fire.

I’ll stop here today and I want you to know that I love you and Jesus loves you even more. See you in the next episode ❤️❤️❤️.